Spaces in Our Togetherness

This post is dedicated to my sweet scribe, Bea, on the occasion of her seventeenth birthday. Happy Birthday, Bea.  I hope all of your Bea – utiful  dreams come true.  And as I must give you your space today, remember that we are together in my mind and in my heart. I love you very much and am thinking of you.  Know that whenever someone gives me a wish (be it pulling the leg of a wishbone, or blowing out candles on my birthday cake, I ALWAYS wish to see you and your sister happy in my arms once again.  That has been my wish every day for the last three (going on four) years.  Believe that!  It is true.  🙂 And please remind your big sister, Purity, that I sent her a birthday wish on the END of the post that I created on her birthday – July 23, 2017.  Thanks.

It’s been a crazy couple of weeks for the Sketchy Scribe.  My friend of over twenty years was getting married last weekend and I flew all the way to South Carolina for the occasion.  Parent/teacher conferences were going on too.  So, I had to get my progress reports finished, my hair colored, and cut as well as my finger and toe nails done before I got on the plane. Whew!  I was exhausted before I left the airport.

I flew from LAX (Los Angeles) to Charlotte, North Carolina.  Then, I took a connecting flight from Charlotte NC, to Savannah, Georgia.  I ended up renting a car so I could drive into South Carolina from the airport.  I stayed at a beautiful resort on Hilton Head Island.  Check it out…

It was so Bea-utiful!  I got in late Friday night and did a wee bit of exploring.  The next morning, I texted my friend so we could meet for lunch. Her family and I had lunch and then we started preparing for the wedding that evening.

The ceremony took place in the Beach Club next door to the hotel.  We had a gorgeous location overlooking the water.  I put my theatrical talents to use by doing a reading.  It came from a book called, The Prophet, by Kahil Gibran.

Gibran was a Lebonese-American artist, philosopher and writer. The Prophet is a book of 26 prose poetry fables written in English and was originally published in 1923. This was what I read.

You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.
Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.

Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.












I read The Prophet when I was a little girl.  I know.  It’s odd for a young person to read such a grown up book.  But, I do think it shaped my life and my thinking. I think that’s why I appreciate having space in my relationships with other people.  In fact, I crave it.  I don’t like when a guy (or anyone else, for that matter) is “camped out on my back door step.”  I like a little room to be, to grow, and to stretch out.

I know that if I ever do get married, this poem will be read at the ceremony.  Maybe one of you will read it?!

It is OK if we have spaces in our togetherness with other people. There is a belief that too much of anything isn’t a good thing. I love this quote because it is so simple, but it is also very profound.

Balance and moderation are key.  I was lucky enough to be in your lives for the time you needed me most: when you were very young.  We did SO much together: tea parties, birthday parties, adventures all over our state, and lots of sleep overs too.

I know you both needed to do some growing without me.

We know we love each other and NO one will take that from us unless WE allow it.  I will never stop loving you both.  You are apart of me.  And I am apart of you.  Honor our love today by understanding and accepting that it is OK to be apart sometimes from those you love.

Right now, we must keep space between us to keep our balance. I get sad about it too, sometimes.  When I need to get a bit more Zen about things, I try to think along these lines –

In the meantime, your beloved Cosmic VJ is sending out this old classic from The Spinners.